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Welcome to the Soft Space

If you’ve ever found yourself spiraling over something you said three days ago, rehearsing conversations in the shower, or wondering if everyone else got a manual for being a human—you’re in good company. This is a soft space for the beautifully average, the slightly frazzled, and the quietly hopeful. A place to grow (slowly), laugh at the mess, and learn how to live with your values—even when you forget what they are mid-coffee.

This place is for the ones who want to live with more intention and self-compassion—but without pretending they’ve mastered mindfulness or turned into emotionless Zen robots. Whether you’re a practitioner bringing Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) into your work, a stay-at-home parent covered in peanut butter, or a student trying not to cry in the frozen food aisle, you belong here.

Stuck in the Quicksand

Imagine you’re stuck in quicksand. Your instinct is to panic, to thrash, to get out right now—but the more you fight, the deeper you sink. Our minds can be like that, too. The more we resist difficult thoughts or uncomfortable feelings, the more tangled we get in them.

ACT invites us to do something that feels a little strange: to stop struggling. Not in a giving-up kind of way, but in a “let’s stop making this harder” kind of way. To spread out, take a breath, and get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Because sometimes, the way forward isn’t through force—it’s through gentleness, presence, and a willingness to sit with what’s real, even when it’s messy.

And weirdly enough, that’s often when things start to shift.

What You’ll Find Here


Gentle guides for applying ACT to real-life social situations (like saying hi without wanting to vanish)

Exercises and prompts for exploring your values and clarifying what actually matters to you

Support for helping professionals who want to show up with more authenticity and less burnout

Humor and honesty, because pretending is exhausting. This blog is about learning how to live with your values in daily life, one awkward moment at a time.

Why Calm(ish)?

I’ll share what I’ve learned—and what I’m still learning—about how to live with presence, openness, and psychological flexibility. No perfect morning routines or Instagram-worthy affirmations required.

The “calm(ish)” part? That’s important. It’s a quiet rebellion against perfectionism. A soft exhale in a loud, demanding world. A gentle reminder that you’re allowed to just be here. Present. Not perfect.

Come As You Are

So stay awhile. Wander through posts. Sip your tea. Take what helps, leave what doesn’t. This space is yours too.

Let’s grow—awkwardly, bravely, and together.

What is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy?

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a form of psychotherapy that encourages individuals to embrace their thoughts and feelings rather than fighting or feeling guilty for them. It promotes psychological flexibility and helps people live in accordance with their values.

How can ACT improve my social skills?

ACT can enhance social skills by teaching individuals to accept their feelings of anxiety or discomfort in social situations. By focusing on values and committed actions, individuals learn to engage more authentically with others, fostering deeper connections and improving communication.

What are the core principles of ACT?

The core principles of ACT include acceptance, cognitive defusion, being present, self-as-context, values clarification, and committed action. These principles work together to help individuals develop a more flexible mindset, allowing them to navigate life’s challenges while staying true to their values and goals.

Is ACT suitable for everyone?

Yes, ACT is suitable for a wide range of individuals, including those dealing with anxiety, depression, stress, and other mental health issues. Its adaptable approach makes it beneficial for anyone seeking personal growth and emotional resilience, regardless of their background or experiences.

How can I start practicing ACT in my daily life?

To start practicing ACT in your daily life, begin by identifying your core values and setting small, achievable goals aligned with them. Incorporate mindfulness exercises to stay present, and practice acceptance of your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Consider seeking guidance from a qualified therapist to deepen your understanding and practice.

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